Second Kid on the way - Need Advice!
old dimer here but this is a throwaway account. I am a man almost 40 years old and working at a PSU. August 2023 we finally were finally blessed with a baby after 8 years of trying via IVF. Before she came out we have tried multiple Times to an extreme extent but we could not get pregnant.So much so was that disappointment that it has started to eat in to our relationship.
After all baby was born life has never been better
Everything has started the fall into place and life which had seemed to be so difficult previously has been easy now.
A few days back We found out we are pregnant again. Since we had to do IVF we actually thought it was impossible for us to have a natural conception. But somehow we're kind of sure that we have a second kid on the way.
I want your advice guys.
Is natural conception possible after ivf?
Is it possible to secure a good future for both of my kids or should I go for abortion?
My first kid will be 21 when I retire, is it advisable to go for a second kid?
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Will answer your questions
1. We never thought about it since we thought it was impossible for us to conceive naturally, but we are happy that it has happened
2.The second conception happened naturally
3.We feel for our first baby it will be beneficial
4.We are already overjoyed, but confused
Pls don't go with abortion. Everyone comes for a reason, and I don't think you have financial problems.
Bhagwan ka diya diya sabkuch hai apka pas.
Bache to bhagwan ka roop hote.
Kids are god's face .
2 bache hai meethi kheer
Usse jyada bawasir.
Even government advice two kids.
Having 2 kids will only stabilize human kind.
I do find that emotionally you are overjoyed
Now the question is limited to your financial and
physical capabilities to look after the children.
Only you can answer these.
if at all possible , He/She has a right to live
With all due respect, this is a very personal decision and at best, you may consult close family and friends. Not public forums!
None of us here understand your family mind space (you and your spouse especially), neither we understand your financial stability, nor your opinion on what is the ideal family size. There are hundreds of factors that you might think or narrow down on one major factor to decide as well.
Not sure how serious you are to go by suggestions here, but sort things out. Not the right place or right way to do it.
Please consult your queries with biologist/professors (preferably zoology and related background).
Byaktigoto vabe ami mone kori tomader jibone dwitiyo sontan asuk, vrunero pran ache! Asha korbo sontander prokrito shikkhito kore tulbe, jara boro hoye thik ke thik, vul ke vul bolar khomota rakhbe, merudondo thakbe, shubho kamona roilo ❤️
You should calculate the financial aspect. As a stranger I can only give you wrong guidance here without knowing all the details of your life style and finances. But before that consider these following question?
• Do you two really want a second child ever in the future?
•• You may not ever conceive again naturally. Would you ever go for a IVF to conceive a second child if money isn't an issue?
••• Do you feel having a dependable sibling ( close reliable brother or sister) is important or necessary mental and social well-being a growing child into a good "human being"? especially in today's nuclear family structure.
•⭐• Do you think this new child would bring great joy to you two? Maybe not as much as your first born, but close enough.
If most answers are no then postpone, consider abortion.